If you’ve just started experimenting with BDSM, chances are good that you’re just naturally curious about what else is out there and what else you can do to make things even more fun. But if you’ve only been playing around with it for a few weeks, it might be a better idea to continue learning before you start making things more intense for both parties in the relationship. Right now, your goal should be to learn about the basics of BDSM – communication, limitations, and whatever sorts of play you are both interested in.
Once you understand how to play safely and you’re having a good time, then you can start to talk to your partner about increasingthe sensations and the experience.
But doing this too quickly can turn off both partners and potentially sour the BDSM experience for everyone. Learn what you can first and once you’ve ‘mastered’ the basics, then it’s time tomove up the BDSM ladder of possibilities.